I don't think you are being over controlling. I think you are realizing how tough this is going to be. I can tell you from past experiences that is one of, if not the hardest thing you will do.
I believe you are trying to protect yourself from being hurt again. I know that feeling all too well. I did it again last night. All because I do not feel "wanted"
Quite frankly that has been the biggest roller coaster ride for since we reconciled a few years ago.
At times I would feel like she wanted to be with me and that we were good again.
Then we would go distances were I felt unwanted.
I'm now learning that a lot of that was in my head and I was pushing her away
Please don't make the same mistake I did cnut
I know it's hard, but you have let the trust build and go from there


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it