What Should I be doing (4)

[Coconut]

I am not a jealous person by nature, even though I was cheated on twice before, and one was a 3 year relationship that left me for a coworker of ours that I was ok with her hanging out with.

When W and I got together, I knew and worked with her most recent ex (I was ok with it) and the biological father of my son was still in the picture (due to son) and persuing my W (girlfriend at the time), she had to go to his house often and pick up son, but I was ok with it, because I knew she was interested in me, I knew she chose me to R with.

But now she didn't choose me, she chose OM, but wants to work on us, but her heart isn't into me, kinda like she's deciding to try and like me again. I'm not comfortable with her having close friendships with all these firefighter men, especially when I see one on one time (I didn't lose it until I saw her one on one, before that I was just upset that she was hanging out with them instead of coming home and hanging out with me and son). I'll say it again, my wife is very hot, 40 and looks 25, she's 5'2, 115lbs with long beautiful blonde hair, most people would say my wife is a 8 or 9 and a 10 for her age.

Am I being overly controlling to not want her in the fire academy? I'm willing to consider her doing it again in 6 months after we figure us out. I would like opinions on that question.