halo, concentrate on the joys you have in life, like your nephew, and don't try to predict the future. Assumptions and predictions can be of your own doing. That's what Michele talks about in her book when she relates the story about coming home from a trip and expecting a less than pleasant husband at the airport. Shge changed her attitude and created the situation that was pleasant, instead of accepting the false assumption that things wouldn't go well.
Live day to day. Yes, you have valid concerns about the future and how things are going but are things so dire that everything around you may collapse? Enjoy what you have. Thank God for the blessings you received. You can work with your husband without being directly involved.
Being supportive of him can go a long way and, eventually, he will let you more and more into the cave.
