Euch......OW photo feed?? You don't need to see those my friend - stuff like that is focusing on them and is never going to help you. Next time you get that urge, try to divert yourself. I think it's like giving up smoking - tough, but it can be done.

I understand that horrible feeling about OW reaping the harvest of seeds you have sewn. Horrible. I remember being so aggrieved about her becoming part of H's family life, when I believed I had earned that place...and would just be supplanted. Actually I don't even know if OW has met H's family - but I imagine they may not be thrilled about her and the situation in general (they don't keep in touch with me.)

I agree with others about due legal process. Time to take sensible steps to look after marital assets and come to some fair arrangements with support from your L.

You're doing really well (apart from the photo feed.... smile ) xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus