What Should I be doing (4)

[Coconut]

Ok, I'm gonna explain what happened. W told me she was meeting up with friend again Friday night to study more, I understood that to mean at the other station. I went out to dinner, on my way home I drove by W station and saw her car there. I was upset because I thought she was going to the other station.

I saw her out behind the station with 4 other M firefighters, kicking a ball around with one of them. I then text her and asked if OM was there, she said no and asked why, I said because she'd been there for a long time (it was about 930.

I had to go to grocery store, and on way home I then saw her out in the back of the parking lot with one guy standing by his truck talking, they weren't standing close, but we're there talking fo about 10 mins just the two of them. I text her and asked if she was still practicing (was supposed to be practicing putting the breathing gear on) and she didn't respond. I then called her about 3 mins later, she answered and I asked if she was still practicing, she said huh, so I asked again and she said "I'm still at the station" and I felt like she was avoiding my question, so I asked who that guy she was talking to. She said it was the guy who runs the honor guard, so I said ok and hung up.

She then started to leave the station and called me, she asked why I was spying on her, I said cause you told me you were going to fake boob friends station and I then saw you at your station, and she wasn't there, and I said that for at least the last hour she was hanging out, not practicing, and I wasn't ok with her being in the back of the lot hanging out with another guy. She got heated and I hung up on her.

Some back and forth texts, her saying she did nothing wrong, me saying she wasn't honest with me, avoided my question when I asked if she was still practicing. Eventually I went back to I'm not ok with her being at the station, and it was either me or fire fighting. She would not agree to drop out, and I said then you've made your choice. I then posted one of the text pages I have of her and OM on the firestations group me group chat, and captioned "nice fkn dept. to assign a predator adulterer to do the partner packet with my hot wife".

W flipped out when she saw I posted it, text "you son of a b", "it's a place of business, that's not ok" & "I hate you".

I then went home about midnight, she locked me out of the MBR, I picked the lock and said I'm staying in her until our D is final. She started in on me about posting it, I said you did it, those were your words, I just shared it.. Then she went to the guest bedroom.

She went to class this morning, when she got home she said "this might be a dumb question, but are you going to the concert" I said that was not something I wanted to do. She kept coming in and out of MBR getting ready, and eventually asked if we were going to sit down and talk about it at some point, I said sure, but your getting ready so I didn't think now is the best time... On her way out, she asked if she could have a hug (we weren't talking except for what I posted), so I was kinda surprised, I paused then said ok. On her way out she said she would text me when they are on the way home.

I woke up when she was getting ready for bed, chkd my phone, no text, and asked if she wanted to talk, she said she was exhausted and let's talk in morning... That's were I'm at right now... I'm not ok with her being at department, and I'm gonna move out if she doesn't quit..