Had dinner with WW tonight. We had talked about it last weekend and she texted me tonight asking if I waned to go. We went to a restaurant we used to go to all the time. It was nice, no relationship talk. Small bits of slight awkwardness but nothing bad I would say. I gave her a hug good bye at the end and she said we should get together more. Then she sent me a few texts before I even got home.
Weird to be in this spot. She is definitely engaging much more. She hasn't said anything overly positive about us, just seems to be confused. I don't know. Maybe next time we have a relationship talk it will be more clear. I'll just go very slow here as I am still not sure which way this all plays out.
Looks like I may see WW for the third weekend in a row which is unbelievable too me seeing as how we didn't talk for months in the beginning. We haven't done anything overly exciting but things have come a long way. She initiated the first two get togethers and seems eager for more. The texting has also picked way up.
We had one relationship talk and she is a confused woman, that is clear. She didn't talk of divorce or of reconciliation in particular, she just seems confused. I think we will have another relationship discussion soon.
I don't think this is temp checking behavior but I do wish it was clearer which direction she wants to go. I am fine with either scenario. I guess I should just keep on keeping on giving where we are at now. I think it will work itself out one way or another over the next several weeks. I just need to keep those expectations in check, continue the GAL and focus on my goals.
I can't believe next week is already our wedding anniversary and a few weeks after that is the 1 year anniversary of BD. Amazing.
Thanks for checking in Feyth. We didn't get to meet up this weekend. We were both busy. I know though that if she really wanted to see me she would make it happen, so a bit of a set back there.
Anyway, wedding anniversary is Wed. That is crazy!! I think I am going to pull back a bit and reflect the next few days. I won't be wishing her a happy anniversary that's for sure!!
I also got a new jobby with a 20% pay increase, not bad. I might use the pay out for my vacation to buy a road a bike so I can do some tris. I'm gonna catch you feyth!
wow... I can't believe tomorrow is my wedding anniversary followed by BD anniversary two weeks later. What an unpredictable and fast year this has been. Crazy!
Even though WW and I have been talking more lately, I have had zero desire to contact her the past few days and I won't tomorrow. I wouldn't really know what to say anyway. I am feeling a bit angry which I haven't felt in a long time. That is interesting. I think I'll be just fine tomorrow though. I will wonder what she is thinking.
Amazingly, I feel further away from D now then I did a year ago. I have no clue which way the next year will go. Hopefully we can move forward one way or the other and move on with life. I am tired of this limbo BS.
Many thanks to the members of this forum over the past 10 months or so. Not only did you help keep me head with interactions with WW, but you also talked me out of pulling the D trigger on two separate occasions.
Right on queue WW texts and wants to do something tomorrow. I do have plans but nothing major. What do you all think? I haven't responded yet. I am not sure which way to go here... it is a bit tricky.
Keep in mind this isn't an early stage situation and we have been making progress lately.
I decided to take a rain check on the dinner. Anniversary times are times for celebration. There is not much to celebrate in the past year of our marriage. It would be too strange after barely seeing her the past year. At least she asked though!
Congrats on the new job, Pinn! How exciting! And ya.... After my tri, I've decided im going to train for a full marathon. You game?! Haha!
Re: your WW, I think you made a good call skipping the dinner... Especially on an anniversary. Actually, I was typing out a whole bunch of other stuff here from the perspective of a woman and just decided to delete it because it would be mind reading on her behalf and not right. Just remember anniversaries are emotional and i don't believe that two people in a relationship, estranged or not, dont want their emotional needs met on such an important day. Again, I personally think you made the right choice.
For now, I'll just leave you with a wish for more good days. Enjoy your promotion and bike shopping!!
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
Thanks guys. I think it was the right call. I don't mind getting dinner with her, we have done that already. Just not today. I am looking forward to getting past the next two weeks haha!
Marathon is already signed up for, pumped up for it! It is in October. Training started this week. I def want to do a tri sprint this summer though too. These tri folks are a crazy group to get involved with. Not sure if you are part of a group or not but they are intense and very social.
Glad you stopped by OTW... haven't seen you post in a while. I try to find familiar threads on here to comment on but I don't recognize most of them anymore. Crazy.
