Halo,, I was just saying that "it takes two" because both have to be open to reconciliation. In many cases, one does significant changes to the point of making the WAS wonder is things could be different. But in many cases, the WAS simply will not respond and will instead hold onto the resentment and anger that led them to their decision.
In your case, as you stated, you made the changes and your H followed your lead. Both of you were open. But in most sitches, the WAS will not make an about-face because iot would require having humility and taking responsibility for their own actions. Most of them want neither.
It is always easier to blame than to look at oneself. Most take the easy road.
