FB is a communication tools, one of many. Although social media can be a problem for some, in the same way as too much TV or online gaming is an issue. If it wasn't FB then it could be anything else. Cutting FB doesn't cut addiction or waywardness.
So let's get to the core, lack of trust of self and another. Those who are wayward are going to be wayward, those who are tempted are going to be tempted.
V has never been wayward, even after D is not wayward. I have friends of all types, ages, sexes, orientations. I believe that's healthy. My Besties at the moment are all female, both my male besties have recently died, that is a great loss to me.
Having friends only of the same sex is a problem I think. This puts pressure on your partner and it's excessive. If your only understanding of women is your partner and you have no other female go to then it might be too much.
My thinking is that limits the understanding of your partner. A man who has no female friends would be a big red flag for me. That's xWH, in his case lack of value of femails means he only sees them as sexual material or feels he can't trust himself or me.
If my partner had that attitude it would limit my life and I think a real problem.
Zues to open up your life to learn about women as friends will assist your personal growth and means your R with a partner does not have so much pressure. If you hold this for yourself and are dogmatic about keeping these rules for your partner that could be restraint on your R. I would not want to be restricted in my friendship with anyone.
I trust V, and I want to trust new partners. That's something I struggle with- trust. I am finding this tough. My view has always been to trust first until someone is trustworthy, I trusted too easily.
I do not want wayward in my life, in another partner or in a male or female friend. We do not always get what we want. One thing I know is that I am not wayward at all, my friends are friends. I have no intention of crossing that boundary when I am in an R.
Having said that my new Rs always start with friendship, these are romantic friendships when I am free to have them with those who are free to be with me.
Those are my views.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
