I read your most recent post on DDJ's thread, and it was pretty inspirational. Where you are now is where I am working to get to. I've had setbacks, and I know I will continue to have setbacks. The biggest thing I've learned this week, through my mistakes & through my IC, is that I HAVE to start taking care of myself. I guess that really means I need to seriously take the steps to going dark and detaching. I wholeheartedly believe my H is lost and is making a huge mistake, but I've finally come to the realization that I cannot force him to recognize that mistake. I can only hope that one day he will, and in the meantime, I am just going to go on with my life and do what's best for me. Hopefully I will remain strong during the whole process.
