Regarding your fear-based list, I definitely recognize some of my own fears there. Wanted to chime in that one of the things I read mentioned trying to focus on what you could be gaining rather than what you are losing.

For me, an example is to not focus on losing my wife, but to consider how much happier I might be without her toxicity. Or instead of worrying about social anxiety, think about how much more confident I could feel if I challenge myself and develop some new people skills.

FYI for me reading a book on Small Talk really helped give me some new conversation seeds and tips. I've been practicing a bit on random people, like my haircut lady, and it's making the prospect of meeting new people less daunting.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11