Some days are better than others

[EDF]

Well, we had our first real fight since BD. Otherwise things have been pretty civil. I thought she seemed like she was in a decent mood at Martial Arts class but we got home and then she started complaining and complaining.

I had invited people over for the UFC fight Saturday - mostly people from our Martial Arts class. WW said she wished I had checked with her first and started listing a litany of reasons it was a "bad idea", including:

1. House was dirty. (Cleaners were literally here this morning!)
2. She didn't want a bunch of people she didn't know over (classmates!)
3. I said I was going to get Sausage & Crackers but that has too much salt.
4. One of the guys is in a wheelchair and she's worried it might damage our wood laminate flooring.

I'm thinking WTF?! What is she really complaining about here? I am reeling a bit and start trying to argue/persuade but manage to recover after a bit and try to validate even though she is giving frankly bulllshit reasons.

I try to ask questions and get her talking, and she mentions a couple other bullshit reasons and finally that she had been thinking of going out Saturday night but now if she does people will wonder why she is not there.

Ding ding ding! Pretty sure that last one is what this was really all about.

I tell her that's not a problem that I didn't tell anyone you would or wouldn't be there so if you have other plans no one will think twice, but she was still distraught. Made a comment about "don't worry she will adapt to everyone else's plans and get through just like she always does"

I kinda hit my threshold at that that point and broke DB a bit and called her on it. Tried to stay calm but pointed out that while her feelings are valid, she knows I didn't set out to [censored] on her plans, and she hasn't been the only one having to put up with other people's actions. Also pointed out that while I hear her I don't understand why she is so worried about the guests... It's not like I invited a bunch of homeless bums.

She was still agitated, but backpedaled quite a bit, which was nice for a change... Normally I'm the one trying to backpedal my way out of conflicts.

We talked a bit more. I validated a bit more. Got her input on what specifically she thought still needed to be cleaned so I can address it.

I think the sitch is she was probably thinking of going dancing Saturday. Sometimes she invites me, sometimes not, and I imagine she didn't want to get dolled up and then leave solo while everyone was here...