Why is it so easy for these WAWs/WAHs to walk away and destroy a family? Lack of character, lack of morals, lack of feeling... I just don't get how someone can walk away from a family with young children and think that is in their best interests.
It is baffling isn't it? Problem is they don't care as the selfishness rules. So everyone's sitch is different but it seems the pattern is one of no guilt, no remorse, and focus on self.
My STBX comes from a messed up family of divorce and seems to think everything will be fine...it was for "me". But that is the problem...she has always been messed up and part of the reason our marriage and all her relationships didn't work
Also if your WAW has friends who have been divorced and talk in her ear about "kids are resilient", "it will only be rough for a few months", "you deserve to be happier"....then...its a recipe for disaster. It is why many folks who divorce after 12-24 months wish they gave it more of a fight....proven factoid.
But for many who were the hurt ones that it 12-24months too late.
I would have done most anything to try to save our relationship but not when I am not 100% to blame and she won't take any ownership to help fix things.
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
