I think a lot of WAS wind up realizing at one point they may have made amistake and see their lives as being more miserable once their wish has been granted. The key, however, is whether they have the humility to recognize their fault and responsibility, and the strength to face their own demons.
In your case, you had both and I think that you and your H are headed for many, many happy years together.
Your story does bring hope to those of us who have been divorced. But, as we all know, it takes two to make it work. As I've been telling others, it's OK to keep the hope if you want to, but don't confuse it with expectations.
Who knows, maybe my XW will "wake up" one day. She clearly looks more miserable and the kids are gravitating towards me more and more. Her daily routine is undoubtedly more stressful and she is just about flat broke living with her mother. But I don't think she'll ever have the strength to admit that she made a mistake and, unfortunately, our kids will always be robbed of "what should have been."
