I think you handled it well. We are a lot alike Coconut. When I read your exchanges between you and your W I swear I am reading my texts and how we speak to each other. Except in my case I was definitely controlling and demanded too much.
My wife works in that field as well. She is a part time EMT who is now in paramedic school.
You are so fortunate to have Sandi and Wonka posting on your sitch
Wonka will definitely throw around some 2x4's:)
He cracked me a whole bunch my last time around


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it