mylittlehalo, Thank you so much for responding. My sitch is not exactly like yours but it is close. Your response gives me more hope. I'm having a hard time keeping hope.
My W left for married OM. i think she thought there may be a future with him. I think he has broken it off or is going to. I thought this might stop my D but she wants it even more now. She says she cares about me but not in love with me and doesn't want to be married to me anymore. She is very convincing.
She wants no contact, not even email. She won't bring our GD over because she would have to see me. I think it is because she feels guilty when she sees me. I would like to think it is because she starts having feelings for me when she sees me.
I think she feels she is in love with OM. I have been dark for 5 weeks with the exception of calling her 2 weeks ago. Went ok but still had some R talk.
Our anniversary is next Wed. and the D will probably be final next week. She tries hard to not give me any encouragement (her words) Sometimes I get the feeling she wouldn't mind talking if we don't talk R. She started the R talk last time and I didn't do a good job of staying off the subject.
Anyway I wanted to bring you up to speed. We are dark now. I have no plans to call or acknowledge the anniverary, however her birthday is jul 26 and right now I plan to get her something as a friend. That may change between now and then
I'm the type of guy that doesn't forget birthdays, holidays, or any special occasion. She loves getting cards and presents but not from me anymore.
I got her a teddy bear for valentines (1 week after she left.) and up until 5 weeks ago she kept it on her mirror where she could see it every day. It still may be there I just have not been to her house since then.
Anyway any advice you have I will appreciate. Thanks again.
PS I have lost 65 pounds and am lean and trim. The last time she saw me I had lost 48 pounds. Everyone says I'm going to blow away.
