What Should I be doing (4)

[Coconut]

Sandi2, you talk a lot about the H being the man of the house, and I see where I was seriously lacking in that arena, I have decided that I will change that and will not be a doormat, but I'm struggling with how to make those changes.

I have the NMMNG book, but I'm not to far into reading it, the book suggests involving spouse if your M, so I'm gonna ask BluWave if it would be good to start that process so early in piecing..

For now, I just want to make sure I don't just "ok" everything my wife suggests, and try and make sure she wants / respects my input, so we just had this text:

W - we don't have anything going on for 4th of July do we? Apparently the station is having a bbq & my capt. Has asked for volunteers to help. I want to volunteer, obviously u and S16 can come, I just wanna make sure nothing else planned (she knows I normally wouldn't plan a month ahead, and I'm guessing was expecting that's fine from me, the old me)
M - my friend asked if we want to go to a party at another of my friends house, what time is BBQ?
W - I have no idea
W - not overly enthusiastic about going to (my friends) house because I don't know them.
M - I haven't decided I want to go (which I haven't, it's an old friend I haven't seen in 8 years), but would be a good opportunity for you to get to know them.
W - well decision either way needs to be made soon so I can tell captain if I can volunteer
M - See if you can find out times
W - ok

Did I handle that ok? Any suggestions on how coulda been better?