Sunny Days are Here, Again

[Zues126]

So to put it this way, I am friendly with a few women, but I am not Friends with any of them.

So, Zues, I've been pondering this and I've wondered where you fall on social media. What if you were standing in line at the post office and struck up
a conversation worth a single woman named Sunny Brook (Galadriel). And then a few days later you got a friend request on FB. Ok or not Ok?

I've been sitting with this for a bit.

I don't think it's quite fair to say 'not ok' absolutely across the board for every couple. But I don't think it's a good idea.

Times it would be ok would be if it was a business face book page, and it was networking. Or if the married couple SHARED a facebook page (which I think would be a great idea) in which case there would be full transparency and the world would know they were talking to both parties at all times.

When it's one on one I don't like it as much. I think that if the spouse is aware of the friendship/connection and ok with it, it isn't kept private, and the relationship is on solid footing, then hey, no problem by me.

But I personally wouldn't like it. Shoot, I'm not on facebook or any type of social media because I personally feel it is a melding pot for this type of thing. It is way, way, way too easy for a person to feel a rush of flattery or giddiness from someone else attention, and it is in such a fantasy setting I just think it's a very dangerous slippery slope. That's why I wouldn't want my partner having opposite sex friends on facebook or frankly even spending a ton of time there. Now, I wouldn't file divorce if she chose to do that. But it might impact the trust and comfort in our relationship. And if it escalated to anything beyond that it is the one boundary I will not tolerate being crossed. And while I wouldn't necessarily terminate a relationship over it, I probably wouldn't ever consider getting close with a woman that didn't share my vigilance towards the marriage being a sacred number one priority that demands daily attention and safeguarding.

Bottom line I wouldn't do it, I wouldn't want my spouse to, but if others are ok with it I won't dictate to them what's ok in their relationship.