I agree that the two of you need to make a real effort to spend some non-working days together. Perhaps she learned to fill her life with other people and activities when she felt her H was emotionally unavailable for her. Working on this MR will not just simply fall into place. It takes purposely planning and prioritizing one another, in a healthy & balanced way..........(you don't want to swing so far the other direction till you both become co-dependent on the MR).
At this fragile point, her taking two weekends back to back without you.........would not be the best. She may feel the need for some space, but for your sake and the sake of the R, it is a good move for you to join her.
By your post, it doesn't appear she was hesitant in you buying a ticket and joining them. I think that is very positive! I see a lot of potential for this R. I hope you can really enjoy yourself at the concert.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
