Still here and need support

[rich4j]

rich4j:the conversation with d7 was one of the hardest things I've had to do in my life. I did tell her it was not my choice and that WAW's choice to move out. As recommended, I watched MWD video on how to present to kids. I was very fearful in the weeks leading up to the talk, but it was not near as bad as I anticipated. I hope this helps.
My next goal will be to get through WAW moving out this weekend.
hugs to all

Thanks P. I reviewed the video and also talked to my therapist. It is a hard decision and we originally started to do co -parenting discussions with a therapist but those broke down as she turned them into a blame session. My therapist recommended telling my D together and not blaming either. My sitch is a bit different as I have suspected an EA/PA from early on but couldn't prove it and she denied. I also believe she did have an EA until she filed and then it became a PA and now may have fizzled...not sure but don't care. She won't admit it and this has delayed and hurt my finalizing an agreement to separate.....denial denial denial

Either way, I am in a delicate position as the final D will take months and I need her to be not a nut as she is now. So it may be the "we" are divorcing versus your crazy mom doesn't love me anymore discussion. But that may come later after I move :-)

In terms of your move, are you taking D7 out of the current school district? If it helps at all, I have been in the same conundrum for 4 months. Looking for a new place stinks....but for the normalcy "WE" decided my STBX would stay in the house for now and I found a new place very close by. I wanted to keep her in the same school as this will be hard enough on her.

WAW moving out will be tough...it will feel and look a bit emptier in your place but try to look at it as a cleansing and the chance to start fresh. It's ok to let yourself be sad about it as it won't be easy. I dread moving out and having her stay in the house but don't let her fool you...I bet it will be hard on her too. Hang in there....better days are coming.