I'm still very open to any thoughts on handling the car situation.

So far I've been assisting a little bit, but leaving her to do the leg work (e.g. gave her the number for a Junkyard I've used before to get a quote.)

Haven't mentioned anything about money/finances to her yet.

Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11