i figured something out this morning. SHE DOES NOT RESPECT ME !!! she didnt when we were married. she DID when i pulled away completely. but somehow when things took a turn for the "better" she lots all respect for me. and some of it is my fault. i have been answering to her beck and call the last week or so.
she needed help with the swimming pool. i was there. she needed help with the kids, i was there. this morning she needed a copy of the insurance card. even though i gave her one a few weeks ago. and like a dummy i sent it to her.
i asked her last week to watch the kids for me this weekend for 3 hours. she was going to ask her mom to do it. and as of yesterday she forgot to ask her.
last night i got someone else to watch them. and i am going to approach her on it today when i pick the kids up. im going to tell her that i dont feel respected, when she "forgets to call her mom for a week"
also i need to start telling her NO. i need to gain her respect and i need to start seeing her trying to impress me. ive been a whimp, trying to impress her. dang it! now im angry