Rightly or wrongly I did not go down the solution path during our discussion so I don't know where we are going or if it has changed anything. She does seem to believe that there is no solution.I guess I would mindread that she has no romantic feelings for me but does not envisage leaving.So I guess she is trapped in a hopeless situation. For me the solution is blatently apparent and is a simple choice.But that has to come from her.
It could have gone a lot worse, that is for sure.
Going forward I hope to build on this.I will work on my talking and communicating, but as I told her it is not possible to communicate with someone who is not receptive or who is checked-out. She checked out because I couldn't talk/communicate enough. Now we have reversed roles and I gave up trying because she was checked out.
It makes sense to me to work on the three points she outlined.That is my first action from this. But I think that was the issue two years ago.Now that she is checked out perfecting those things may not make the slightest difference.
I really would like feedback on what others think, esp as to what my next steps should include.
So far today there has been no negative fallout and exchanges have been good and light.
And yes I got to say some of the stuff I thought should have been said, so I feel better for that
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
