Earlier I mentioned the tool to change character traits well here are my two lists. The traits I am working on changing are 1. low self esteem, 2. Indecisive/ unsure what to do 3. A pleaser putting my needs last. 4. Doubter/pessimist 5. Communication. Keep everything to myself.
The traits I am working towards are: 1. Assertive/confident 2. Decisive 3. Optimist.PMA 4. Empathize, validate, 5. emotionally open.
Many here have worked on themselves and their characteristics.I have repeated mine here again. Firstly to remind me where I need to focus but also to ask for any tips, insights, info, tools, etc that could help me transform myself.
I am making headway to some extent on much of this. I am more confident. I am not as assertive as I want but I am less passive. This will take time as I don't want to be assertive just to be assertive. As I progress with my path this will become clearer. I am making more decisions, not letting W decide everythingbut to be fair she does involve me mostly in decisions and stuff esp related to kids.
I am optimistic about the future. My pma is better but definitely could be better, but I am working on that. I am not optimistic about having a fulfilling R with W, but I think it is still a possibility. I have not given up, but I accept where we are.
Anyway without outlining all my little details, the point of this post is to search new ideas to help me rebuild Roiste2.0
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
