Time to Love and discover myself

[Esame]

Pink I'm just catching up with your posts. Congratulations on your son's graduation and academic achievements! I'm sorry to hear he had to go to the hospital, and I really hope he is doing better now!

What is awkward for me is that XH is full of attentions and always put his hands on me. Like on my arm, my shoulders. If I say he is doing this with intention of being close to me, I can also understand that he is just trying to be kind and supportive to the situation at the moment.

If I say that he is supportive, then it could be that I am missing it because he is doing this even when there is no emergency or problem around.

The problem for me is that I do not know what to do. If I ask him to stay away from me, then I will lie, be immature and ignorant. If I don't, then it is letting him to be close to me, what in some ways is not good for me.

Yesterday was easy to just walk away and ignore what he does, but sometimes it is very obvious what is going on. So, I am not sure if I walk away or do the same for him, since it is one of his complaining, that I was not caring enough.

The situation you describe regarding being uncomfortable with XH being full of attentions touched a cord with me. I am at a far earlier stage (DB 5 months ago, H committed to our relationship and we are supposed to be trying to work thing out) but I feel the same way. when he touches me it is nice in a way, but then it is also terrible because I don't know why he is doing it. I understand why you are struggling with it, and even though I have no words of wisdom for you I wanted to let you know that maybe it is normal to feel that way. I'm in no way handling it well, so maybe your more patient approach is better.

Pink it sounds like you are doing really well, and that you are in fact benefiting from loving and discovering yourself. Thank you for your beautiful posts.