But hey, commercial break over. Back to real-life drama. Possible to use this pma boost to get your sexy back when interacting with W?
Sounds like you're not too bad in the sexy department. What else attracted W to you when you were dating?
Definately brightened my day alittle bit today. Couldnt wipe the grin of my wife.
I personally think im just okay looking but have received a fair share of attention, from both sexes even (ladies i understand, i know what it feels like to have dudes stare creepily at you)
Its never been an issue though as throughout the M i always wore the husband / daddy hat proudly.
What did attract W to me? We met at a poorly little pool hall. She was on the next table and i was doing my vampire gaze thingy. Bumped into her as she was leaving so i asked for her number. She played hard to get so i said okay and turned to leave. She then blurted out her number.
She was playing the field at this time, we both were. We were young, carefree, party animals. she said i wasnt like other guys. I didnt fly off the handle, i was calmn and cool and collected even though she had been out all night with other guys. After that we started dating exclusively.
The first time she said i love you was in a dingi little diner, completely out of nowhere while i was stuffing my face with breakfast. But she dumped me on the same day for another guy.
I was crushed, but i was trying to get over it. Her friends saw me going for lunch with a girl a week or two later. Happen to bump into W that same night. She put on her charms, i fell for it and then we were together again and the rest is history.
Originally Posted By: DDJ
Fine, i'll wake you up!
What attracts you to your W? Focus on that.
Interestingly enough W is same build, height, hair style as the smoking hot chick. However I know and love every inch of my W down to her smell. The tiny freckles on her face that always reminds me of constellations. Thinking about it makes me sad. I am losing the only person that completes me. She gave me purpose and she gave me our son.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
Confidence. It seems like your W is drawn to you when you're confident and you show that you can make it with or without her.
And Natus, you can't let your wife complete you. Forget Jerry Mcguire. You complete you and you must give your life purpose.
When we give our spouses so much power, we live in a lot of fear. And fear makes us unattractive and fear makes us spin.
I have a feeling that your sitch will change when you let go of the fear. But then my worry would be that your W seems to want what she can't have. This is something that you would have to address, but perhaps not just yet.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Hi JksD, I am letting go of that fear or at least growing numb to it. Atleast that is what it feels like.
As for my wife wanting what she can't have. Im afraid by then i will probably have moved on. That is a new fear now. That no matter what my family is broken no matter what i do.
Before her i was purposeless, empty, just living for the thrill day by day, doing everything with gusto. If i didn't settle down i'd probably end up being a nomad. I still feel the call, heck if we didnt have kids i'd probably pack my gear, hop on a motorcycle and disappear.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
...pack my gear, hop on a motorcycle and disappear.
That sounds like the perfect vacation.
It does sound perfect. Alas my son, schedule and myriad of other things will not let me go. Quite frankly my W wont be able to cope with my son alone either.
Past week or two We have been doing everything like a normal family, spending alot of time together. Had a good weekend, too good that i deluded myself into thinking we were on the mend. Got shot down pretty fast last night. Atleast im not confused about our position anymore.
While i have been doing great on 180s i havent gone dark / LRT. I think its time that i do.
Any tips on still living together / same bed going dark and LRT?
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
Past week or two We have been doing everything like a normal family, spending alot of time together. Had a good weekend, too good that i deluded myself into thinking we were on the mend. Got shot down pretty fast last night. At least im not confused about our position anymore.
Natus,
I'm sorry you got shot down. That happened to me a number of times and it s-u-c-k-e-d (avoiding censorship) every time.
No we are not piecing. She is just laying low, not giving me anything in the hopes i give up and set her free.
She wants to leave but she doesnt want to be the one to walk away. She wants to wait for me to do it.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
