First, since I've been physically separated from my W I have come to realize that I've been emotionally abused for years. My sense of reality was warped. I had no self confidence, no self esteem and was probably depressed. My W has been manipulating things to make me feel like I'm always the bad guy. I'm not mistake free, but this marriage took two people. Now that I'm away from her I'm gaining some perspective and it hurts a lot to know she did this to me.
I talked to her sister and divulged a little of the above. Her sister revealed that she was a victim of this as well going back to childhood. It got so bad that at the age of 14 she finally moved out. Her parents didn't stop her and have never talked about it since. How f'd up is that? She said that my W has a superiority complex (I whole heartedly agree) and that my W is always working to make her feel inferior (me too!)
I bear some responsibility in that I allowed myself to live like this for so long, but I am looking forward to a bright future. Soon I will be in a place where I can have my kids live with me part time and that will be great for me and for them. I want them to see what a happy home feels like.
