It looks like things are on the up and UP for you guys! I am so pleased to read of your sitch's progress.
In my view, I think it is now safe for you to try and get W to look at the 5LL book together. That would be a good way to connect emotionally as you two discuss your preferences and learn more about each other.
The one other book recommendation is The Relationship Cure one by Gottman. I am reading it now, after dusting it off after being laid dormant for sooo long, because it helps me to look back on my issues and patterns to learn more about my own weak areas in order to be more self-aware of them as they crop up.
How are you doing, my friend? I am so relieved that you now recognize the importance of taking things slowly and making W work for you. You are WORTHY of the effort.
