Quote: I am so nervous about easter with his family. My tummy has been upset for the last couple of days
I can understand the butterflies, but off the record...thats not the Halo that I think I know..The Halo that I've been posting to, the confident, fun, happy, strong, sexy, NON-WORRYING Halo, simply doesn't think twice about a family get together. Rather she sees it as a CHALLENGE that she will handle just FINE, if she sticks to what got her this far in the first place, and that has to do with having absolutely NO EXPECTATIONS of anything other than HAVING A GOOD TIME. Family will say what they are going to say, its OUT OF YOUR CONTROL. So rather than treat this like a "first time meeting", which adds undo PRESSURE.. treat it as though you've DONE IT A HUNDRED TIMES.
Here's what I would do sometime between now and Sunday: Go back and reread your ENTIRE thread in Newcomers. Then, try and go a day without talking to your XH unless HE CONTACTS you. Secondly, go out on the town one night with your gal pals, or do something you enjoy DOING BY YOURSELF. The reason I suggest this, is because I've noticed that since you came to piecing and more importantly since you have spent more and more time with your XH, you are losing touch a little with the types of things you were smart enough to do while you were seperated from him. The focus appears to be you trying to be "perfect" and not make mistakes, i.e. playing NOT TO LOSE HIM, rather than..PLAYING TO WIN HIM, kinda like what you did throughout your thread in Newcomers..
Gotta get the edge back Halo, the way to reduce the nerves, is to reduce the importance of having to have an Easter brunch go perfectly. Family will be family, they'll have their thoughts, say what they're going to say, nothing you can do about it, except ROLL with it and let it ROLL down your back, thats CONFIDENCE and thats ATTRACTIVE.
Quote: I also know that the OW's name will be brought up..
Yeah so?..Is SHE going to Easter brunch with his family or ARE YOU?..end of conversation..
Its all about letting the NATURAL you come to the forefront within the context of this new R with your XH and seeing what happens. Its good enough or it isn't, Halo KEEPS moving forward regardless of the outcome..
