I understand what you're saying, and I agree. My biggest fear is being too tolerant of an affair. If you know what I mean; it's hard for me to put into words. I'm willing to forgive and move on with my marriage, but there's a certain level of tolerance of an affair that's not acceptable to me.
For example, the guy who's wife told him she was going to spend the weekend with the OM. Regardless of whether or not she's being honest, I think that sort of overt affair behavior is more than I could tolerate.
