Your in your house with your kids... Sounds to me like you have the world at your fingertips, you have everything you NEED in this world, and the most precious people in it...
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Your in your house with your kids... Sounds to me like you have the world at your fingertips, you have everything you NEED in this world, and the most precious people in it...
Thanks Coconut that's just put a smile on my face, need to look at what I have!
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
Opinion please, as we swap over child care a tea time, wife had made me tea to have with the kids, I was'nt really happy with her making me tea! It's abit like having a fake family she is looking after! I said just make tea for the kids, her response was "Y? I've done enough for u and told them u will be eating with them... What's up now" I told her I didn't think it was right her making tea like happy families!
Right thing to do?
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
I can relate to everything you said in your post. After learning the hard way it is not a good idea to expose. No matter how much it hurts.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Pull yourself together for your kids sake. I understand what you feel. I have experienced moments where I have physically rolled on the ground and balled my eyes out, with some screaming thrown in for good measure!
Looking back on those moment, I admit that the worst of it was created by over thinking over analysing and over assuming I knew what I didn't.
You have no way of predicting the future nor knowing what she will do. There is always hope BUT for now you need to accept your current reality. Not only accept but move forward with it. It is not easy but it can be done.
You may not believe me but you have more control than you think over your feelings. Look up cognitive techniques that can help. CBT.Google excel at life.
Make small goals for today, tomorrow.Make plans for stuff with kids this weekend.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Against all the rules, I wrote my W a letter about our marriage, she has read it and is very emotional, she says is very mixed up and feels like she is going to have a breakdown. She says she is broken!
She says when she see me it makes her feel worse,
Think I could have made matter worse! What should I do know!
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
So son football club, has a parent football, it's has mum and dad's matches, W want to play and asked if I was going to play in dads match, I said I'm not sure I can, I don't find it easy being around her!
She told me I'm letting out son down, funny I seem to think that fact she has thrown her family away for OM is more of a let down! I didn't say that but it was in my head!
Me: 40 W: 36 T21 M17 S12 D10 D10 ILYBNILWY EA happened. PA happened. June 2016 trying to piece our M and life's back together...
Sandi always says, don't cover up her affair. If she says it's amicable in front of you, then out her. If you do nothing, then you are implicitly condoning it and staying a doormat.
Just to clarify, That's not exactly what I say, DDJ. I don't think the BS should lie and try to cover her affair. However, I am not a fan of full out exposure, and certainly do not recommend it for every situation.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
