Quote: Have this funny feeling he wanted me to put my foot down and tell him that he already had plans with me, or did he expect me to complain like the old me would have done?
I'm not so sure he wanted to put your foot down, I just think he was concerned about squeezing everything into a busy schedule. You did the right thing, you listened and validated and didn't complain and hopefully DID NOT TRY AND FIX THINGS too much..
Quote: I do know he likes strong, confident women, these are a couple of things that attracted him to me in the first place over 10 years ago.
Yes, most men do, and those qualities are DRAWING him back to you, along with some of the other personality characterisitics you possess..so keep it up. A happy, FUN, confident, non needy Halo does not read into things too much, she just IS who she is, she KNOWS what she has to do to have a more fulfilling R based on MUTUAL respect, and trust and love...etc. with her XH this time around. And the way she can enhance that is to NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF too much..if you know what I mean...Just trust that when these little perfectly normal concerns pop up now and again, that you are secure enough in knowing you'll handle them without TRYING TO BE TOO FINE..rather, just let your natural self come to the forefront. Handle things the way its NATURAL for you to do so, rather than how you THINK he'd want you to..
Nice job handling the anniversary gig, you resurfaced in fine fashion, you LOOKED GREAT, acted confident and NICE, bonded with his family..everything you needed to to you did...
Just keep doing what seems and feels right when you're together, and leave the expectations on the backburner..
