First Post - Need help (2)

[Coconut]

Kyle, it's not weird at all of thinking about setting a date, we all do it, but it's not effective. Something that you have to realize is that everything is going to hurt until you fix you.. A divorce is not going to change anything, you will still miss her, you will still see her because you're co-parenting, everything will be the same except for legal status.

Also, you don't sound like you want a divorce, so why would you consider setting a date to file for one? I'll tell you why, because you want to take control of the situation, I'm gonna let you in on a secret, you cant control this situation. Wanna know what you can control? Look in the mirror, that's the only thing you have control of..

You can control how much you will allow others actions to affect you, you can control how happy you truly are.. How have you been doing on meeting goals? have you started getting out and exercising? Did you go hike around the cliffs yet?

Let us know what you are happy about doing / accomplishing, it helps to get that stuff out in writing too.