My Wife Walked Out

[RSG]

Wow. Spent a lot of time reading Sandi's posts about the WW. It made me realize that, while I may be doing OK, I can see all the ways I've been wrong. I'm taking the crumbs, agreeing with her way too often, trying to be nice, etc. All the things that make her think I'm weak. Not anymore. She called this morning to ask if I'd come pick him up from school. She didn't give me 10 seconds to think, said I'll just bring him to you and I said ok. I'd get there about 10 minutes prior to 4:30, so no biggie anyway for my boy. She made the comment she is worried about traffic after dropping him off, and I said "yeah, that is pretty rough" without saying anything else.

I've been initiating too much contact, and it likely seems like I'm happy to see/talk to her rather than making it about my son. I'm going to go dark unless it's about him, stand up to her more, and be vague about what I'm doing. She will have to initiate calls to say goodnight to our son, and if she misses that then she misses it.

Sandi's posts were amazing, and really a kick in the teeth. I AM a nice guy, and it's time to stop being a doormat! She has to see what she will be losing. The one time she realized that, she broke down in fear....because she'd be losing her safety net. Good. I'm no safety net!

Feeling confident this morning, THANK YOU Sandi!!