WAS or what (recap for me)

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Post 1 sept 15

Although here I tend to talk about the crap side of things, I have still been working on the positive, as laid out at the start of thus thread. To help my focus I am going to post now my goals and actions for the next few weeks.

1 Relationship
Although not out of shape, I want to tone up and be mire physically attractive. So at least once a week I will dedicate time to this.. I put this under R as it will help with any future R.

2 Dad
I aim to get home early enough once per week to help boys with homework, plus at weekend.
Plan specific activities with both sons individually and together.
Read and learn how to be a better dad, not necessarily a fun dad. I want to have fun with them but foremost be their dad.
Weather and time permitting I may organise a camping weekend with the boys in Sept.

3 GAL
Join a club /activity in September and then go at least weekly.
Do sport at least three times a week , at least one of which with others.
Book trip home to friends wedding w/wo W.
Spend less time on couch. Only be on couch if doing something or watching something I really want to watch.

4 Friends
Be more social. Meetup with at least one friend each week.
Make new friends (hopefully in club) and specifically not in dame social circle as W or current friends.
Contact at least one distant friend per week

5 W
Decide if want to implement any of the options outlined recently. I'll analyse them again, but not sure there are any good options. But I am not afraid to do whatever I decide even if it pushes W away. Maybe I actually should push her away in a DB way.
Improve validating. I will reread validating thread and validate at any opportunity.
Make list of signs of improvement that I would like to see. Small step signs and not long term goals.
Show appreciation at all occasions to W and show love in the 5ll ESP acts of service

6 Me
Sleep better. Re evaluate after increase in sport and take natural based medication if needed.
Work. Stay focused at work.
Be more decisive.
Ask W to teach me to dance (rock n roll). I would like to do this before friends wedding, (esp if she comes but not only). Will also be good for any future R.

7 House.
Tidy my desk and keep it tidy
Tidy basement, including gym area and keep them functional.
Restart work on boys bathroom and finish it this year.
Finish painting cabin in garden for boys. Rain prevented that being ticked off before holiday
Write down my to-do list around the house and start ticking them off as done.

8 Plan B
Seeing how I am struggling with current situation and w too I think, it is time to prepare a plan B or at least figure out what I want to happen if we separate. First step is getting better informed and clearer on all options etc.