Years is definitely not unrealistic roiste. Whether we are together in our marriage or apart...it will take years for us to get to that place where we need to be to be truly happy.
Codependency, breaking through the fog, overcoming that WAS mindset of 'it is over', learning to trust each other once more...that will take a long time.
It sounds like you are doubting yourself. I am there sometimes, wanting to just say phuck it, maybe all of this is not worth it. I keep going back to the beginning and thinking how awesome life can be.
It is hard, it will be trying and taxing. It is going to push every limit you have, bit when you chose, you will know you've done Truely everything you could have and you can chose with a soft heart.
You are doing well!!!
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
