Originally Posted By: roiste Great set of rules. They seem mostly to apply to LBS doing LRT. My situation is not yet there but potentially could get there.in such a case is the advice to follow all the rules anyway or can some be ignored to start with.
I disagree. I think a lot of them apply to any relationship in which one partner is heading out the door & the other wants the R to continue.
Pull back, get a grip and really dig deep within Yourself to see what, if anything needs changing IN YOU -
and follow most/all the rules til you have done YOUR work.
THEN you can reassess and decide if & when the LRT would need application but since it is THE LAST resort, by definition,
you'd do a whole lot of other approaches (see "rules") FIRST.
Make sense?
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
