Posted 17 june 15

You are mind reading.

It's because it's uncertain.

let it be uncertain.

Don't ask, you may confirm things for W. STFU.

Switch off, detach from the outcome.

Let it unfold

Another quote stolen elsewhere here. We often are so eager to know the outcome now and eliminate ambiguity and uncertainty. Pushing for certainty will most often result in pushing WAS away and towards being certain they want out.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together