Yes, I agree there are some big lessons in there. So, your love depends on your spouse remaining around a size 6 or similar - if she gets bigger she'll become an embarrassment to you. You cruised around for petite dark women in your M and only didn't cheat because no-one bit. Then you show censure towards your W who presumably felt unloved and unaccepted and went outside the M for affirmation.

You may feel you have learned your lessons - and have become a man only a fool would leave. But I have to say there are some pretty big lessons to learn in that story, and your attitudes towards women are questionable I think.

Are you seeing a therapist yourself DDJ? I'm wondering why you found it hard to connect with someone on an authentic, deeper level (ie: seeing beyond the person who is brunette and petite...)

This may all sound a little blunt....and feel free to let me know if my postings aren't helpful. smile

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus