The weight issue; she was a size 6 when i met her, going all the way to a size 12 by our honeymoon. I am attracted to petite woman with long hair. My W never had both, but I was happy because I had her. When she lost her figure I sub-consciously stopped "loving her". I used to be embarrassed by walking with her being so big, never saying it, but she clearly felt the lack of affection. Low self-esteem, definitely maybe.
When we first started seeing each other, we were friends with benefits. BEST FRIENDS. Then she asked for a R, and I thought, what do i have to lose. But never, what do I have to gain.
As for marrying someone I was not in love with, well I was in for a penny and then in for a pound. She needed me, I could not drop her, i was still fixing her - this was a work in progress and my masterpiece was not complete yet. I could also not break her heart - in a similar way that i had broken my XGF's. So i stuck around, married her and quickly gave her a baby to help her to grieve her recently (1 month) deceased mother.
It was a fun journey, but i was always looking, trying to connect with other petite, long haired girls. No-one ever bit. Until i got bitten by my W.
As you say Sotto, these are my lessons. I'm highly analytical. A strength which my STBXWW still thinks is unattractive. So perhaps she'll never get here - but i am here now and will make sure that i am a success, in my life, work and any future R.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
