Its not too late!

[mylittlehalo]

Wiley- Thanks for posting on my thread. You reiterating the words that I typed over a month ago hit me like a brick. I didn’t exactly forget that it happened but seeing this in other people’s eyes really makes me feel great.

Halo, I'd be interested in learning what kinds of things you did that may have given him the impression that he WAS LOSING YOU..I know you were upbeat, happy, good listener, non pressuring, but what else happened that may have really opened his eyes that you had moved on??

One of the biggest things I have done is I got a life!!! Every time he would call (he was the one who called 99.9% of the time) to talk he would ask how and what I was doing. At that point I was getting very involved in church and a singles group with my church, there was always something going on and when he would ask I would tell him. I spent as much time with my family as possible and I gave up my night-life (work in and going to clubs.) I quit chasing him and slowly he started chasing me. Oh I also let him know how happy I was for him, with his new home and stuff. The big thing is that I meant it!! IMHO I also believe he got on the ball when I told him that we would “talk” about our possible R when he took care of his current situation. This is a 180 from the old me. All the other times we have tried to reconcile I jumped in with both feet. This time I did not appear to be as eager.

I have taken a back seat and let him drive for a while. Looking around and enjoying the scenery is great. He starts ALL R & M talk. He is even the one who brought up looking for a house last weekend. I am just riding the waves.

Deb, I know how you feel knowing that H calls Ow by your pet name but look at it this way… He obviously doesn’t care enough about her to make one up for her! LOL

BTW, I love your posts! You're awesome!

Deb thanks for this, PMA boost!!!

Anita- this process took what felt like forever. Separated over three years, D final almost 2 years ago. Xh started calling me regularly (1-2 times a week) in October. Every month his phone calls were longer and occurred more often. Early January is when I told him to take care of his situation and we would talk about our R. Now look at where we are. Talking several times a day, spending weekends together, talking about getting married, putting an offer on a house, spending time with both families, etc. I could not be happier at this moment!
I am so thankful for all of you. If it was not for the support I have received here I would not of been able to be or stay as strong as I have been.
hugs and prayers