Had a really great night at Martial Arts. Tonight was kinda stressful because it was a fight night (100% strength sparring) we've been building up towards the last few months. WW is also in the martial arts class, and had invited some friends (ladies) to watch her fight. So I started today with all sorts of performance anxiety from multiple angles, in addition to the normal R stress.

However, wrote out a game plan and committed to just doing my best and enjoying it; avoided making it about my W and trying to impress her or not look like a chump in front of her friends... being gracious and a good sport regardless of how I performed.

And I feel like I nailed it. I was upbeat and sociable with people, enthusiastic about the rest of the team's fights, and enjoyed my turn in the spotlight.

I ended up performing well, W was friendly and introduced me to her friends, got a number of compliments on my fight, etc. But for perhaps the first real time the W niceness of the moment felt like it was coming from just another person, as opposed to my night being about her.

Hopefully this feeling lasts through tomorrow because I really need to get some more work done at work, which is the area I have been having the biggest struggles with.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11