Mozza's own success story

[Mozza]

Thanks all for the show of support. I've my ups and downs. Usually, I'm down throughout the day, I can even cry a little and barely work, and then I'm back up in the evening and the future seems bright, with or without NG. I'm a night owl and this is a reminder that, in the end, we're all a bunch of neurons and hormones...

We've exchanged one text on Friday (a week ago) and it's been silence ever since. I think it's the best I can do at the moment, since she's asked for some space and I told her that I'd speak with my actions (is this contradictory?). I admit that staying in the waiting period for another two weeks appears a long stretch. I've to learn to be more patient. In the meantime, I made exciting plans: went out of town with a friend in a convertible on Monday, had lunch with my best friend on Tuesday, going to see a friend 3 hours away this week-end, etc.

I've had a frustrating exchange with STBX last week-end, where she refused an expense apparently because I had not phrased my text as a question, but as a statement ("You're not consulting me!"). It made my blood boil because she was splitting hair, but I managed to mostly keep it under wrap, not without telling her "Are you serious? Please don't do this, it's not good for our cordial arrangement". The following day, I asked her to clarify why she was refusing the expense and she agreed that I was right.

Mostly, it made me think about how we resolve our conflicts in a relationship. When it happened, I was ready for battle. A day later, I was in a much better place, if still a little frustrated. My goal was to get an agreement on this type of expense and I achieved it. When we were together, I would never have waited 24 hours and it would have escalated? What for? Nothing. Working to avoid conflicts with STBX is teaching me as much about relationships than being with her did.