Congrats on turning things around in your sitch. I was a lurker on your thread for some time and I tip my cap to the way you handled yourself right from your opening post. I was particularly impressed that when your X having an R with the OW, living with her and calling YOU to talk about her etc..you were smart enough to treat it in the following manner..
Quote: I "acted as if" it was no big deal, calmly told him that as soon as he took care of the situation he was in, we would talk about it.
That was AS COOL AS A CUCUMBER, not too mention it exudes calm confidence, and exuded connotations of you LETTING GO when it was extremely imortant for you to do so..Didn't surprise me that as I followed your thread, things got better after that happened..
Quote: He told me he was scared that I had moved on and that he had lost me forever: he knew he had to do something quick before he did lose me.
For all you DBers out there viewing from home...REREAD THIS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! You greatly add to your cause when you LET GO and START TO GIVE THE IMPRESSION that you may not be WAITING AROUND TOO MUCH LONGER. Halo, I'd be interested in learning what kinds of things you did that may have given him the impression that he WAS LOSING YOU..I know you were upbeat, happy, good listener, non pressuring, but what else happened that may have really opened his eyes that you had moved on??
I'm really happy for you, hopefully you will help others to really do what it takes to give themselves at least a chance at saving their Ms..
