I have no idea exactly what the turning point was but this is my ASSumption. I know it’s not good to assume but this time I think it will be okay. We have kept in contact with each other for the last three years, We tried ˝ heartedly several times but had not tried in over a year. He bought a house with Ow a little over a year ago and I think this was the breaking point for him. We have had question sessions and he has told me that he had realized he was still “in love with me” shortly after he and Ow bought their house. He felt like he was trying to live “our” life with her and it wasn’t right, he was miserable. The love we once had showed him what love was and he did not love her. He told me that he was scared I had moved on and that he had lost me forever: he knew he had to do something quick before he did loose me.
Quote: What difficulties have you two over come?
One of the biggest things we have overcome is the trust issue we had. Before Xh left three years ago we had a lot of problems with trust. I had had an EA that turned into an A. Living a double life, a million lies and the usual that goes with being involved in an A. The other things we have overcome are the jealousy and anger problems I once had. I amaze Xh all the time with my actions and reactions. He is constantly telling me how much I have changed and that I am not reacting the way I normally would have. He also tells me how happy he is with me.
Quote: General Advise?
IMHO I think any marriage is salvageable, the keys are patience, faith, work on yourself and things will work out the way they are supposed to work out. Water, I hope I answered your questions…
Rotzilla - Thanks I’m glad I’m here too!!!
Quote: What is better than you had imagined about your R now?
The best thing about our R is that we are “best friends”, we can sit and talk for hours about nothing in particular. There is not a struggle for conversation. I get weak in the knees when we kiss and hug. We both want basically the same things in life. Not exactly the same as that would get boring. His family is so nice to me and I feel like I am wanted and welcomed. This is the first time I have ever felt this way and we have been together for over 10 years! We do not have a trust issue any longer. We trust each other completely. This was a huge problem for us before Xh left 3 years ago. The list goes on and on. All smiles on this end!!
Quote: What do you still need to see improvement on?
I believe I still need to see improvements on how he tries to combine the old me and new me. He is still somewhat hesitant about the person I am now staying around. He has not said this outright but this is what I believe. I cannot blame him for being hesitant about this. I was a very emotional, angry, and insecure person once upon a time. I just have to make sure he knows with out a doubt that the person I am now is the person I will be always. Another improvement that needs to be done is something neither one of have control over. His Real estate agent needs to get on the ball and sell his house ASAP!!!
Renew4me & imalright12960: Thanks for the encouraging words and support.
I wish all of you hugs and prayers
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
