Wife called me after work, on the verge of tears. The auto shop where we took her car after her fender bender hasn't looked at her car yet. They had told her they would look at it Tuesday, but today when she called they instead said they were waiting for her to call them back before looking at it for some reason. She's had a rental car for several days and they haven't even looked at her car yet.

I just listened and validated while she complained about the auto shop and how that's just her life now with "everyone but her trying to [censored] her over". I was very tempted to offer help like I normally would... Offer to help her find different auto shop, or reassure her we can keep the car rental longer if needed, etc, but I held my tongue.

So many of these sorts of problems I've always made go away for her, but while she wants to keep all her options open she can deal with her own problems.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11