Remarrying the Ex? Why am I the only one working?

[RosaLinda]

Here's an idea for you DBS, put down the oars and step away from the boat. You seriously need to detach. I have been dabbling thru your old posts, way back to 2008! In Nov 2010, after your final divorce hearing (so sorry ) you wrote

Part of me griefs. Part of me celebrates the end of being yo-yoed all over creation.
For me, I need to create a safe space she cannot enter in for quite awhile, including ZERO contact until I have been able to work through things.

Sounds like your ex is back to yo-yoing you. She sounds SO much like my ex. He does not want me, but cannot actually let go, and calls or texts all the time, even though he is engaged to OW #5 or 6. This is such a cliche, but honestly, although DBing did not save my marriage, it saved my sanity and soul and heart. It took over 5 years, but I truly got to a place where his shenanigans did not hurt me anymore, and I was able to cut thru that yo-yo string and move on.

Being tired of being single is not a good reason to get married. She admits that she is not willing to do the hard work every successful relationship needs, and has no desire to make you and your relationship a priority!? I don't blame you for feeling resentful. I agree with Cadet. Why would you want to marry someone who is only using you?

Take your own advice - create a space she cannot enter, and work thru things on your own. Detach. Move on. It's time!

Tell us about yourself. Is your son still living with you? How are your other kids doing? All grown up and out of the house I bet! Do you have any grand kids?