What Should I be doing (4)

[Coconut]

So are you guys saying that I'm wrong in thinking that a wife that was having an A less than month ago should not be joking about sex with male friends that I don't even know??? That confuses me, I'm not saying I handled it well, but when trust is an issue I would expect that she would be careful to not step outside the bounds of what's appropriate...

And she says that it was just a joke and she doesn't see why it would bother me, but she deleted it not knowing I'd already seen it. Why delete it if she didn't think there was anything wrong with it? And why delete other texts if she's trying to gain trust... Giving someone access to censored material isn't any access at all.