So Cali, lots going on. I'm left with a few questions though.
I see you thinking about the possibility of a relationship with stbxw. I'm thinking that may be the wrong approach. i.e. now isn't the time, right? Now is the time to be free, single and exploring your faith and the world around you. If it so happens that she wants to come back AFTER doing the work she needs to do at a later time...? Then you can evaluate then. But until then, perish the thought masochist.
My real question though? What happened to China?
AJ
P.S. Of course now is the time to put your faith in God. Why wait until things are difficult? And for the record, you didn't 'mishandle' anything. You did your best based on what you knew and your best judgement at the time you were faced with the choices. I wouldn't stop doing that if I were you. You're a smart and perceptive cookie.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."