Ok so I should not jump the gun and approach then?
-When said "talking to someone"... I have been talking to the person who wrote the MR prog I did before stumbling on this forum/techniques. Similar to DB. -Guess EA really effecting me and want to discuss it together. Someone had mentioned setting boundary around that? -And know others have suggested some type of counseling after BD so thought maybe would bring up as well?
-Do not approach him about separation or divorce, unless it is something you want.
- don't tell him about any counseling or techniques you've had or learned, just do them, actions speak louder than words.
- you say EA, but if I remember correctly the OW didn't want anything to do with him, is that still the case? if it is, then he has more of a fantasy R in his head, but I guess there's not much a difference. Hopefully a vet can help on how to address this, it's so hard to deal with when they work together, because it's gonna be really hard to snap out of it when he sees her everyday. I'm not sure how you set boundaries for a R that is only in his head.
- counseling would be for you. As long as he's off in Lala land, he won't want to work on M and would just be blaming you for everything.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
