Want to hear something crazy? A short back story: 8 years ago my exH left me for is AP. They are married now. So, I've been over him for a long time. I've been in the dating game for a while.
The one thing I do not freak out about is cheating. I never snooped on a guy to see if he was, it was seriously my last concern. I never wanted to spoil something good with those worries.
My thoughts? If he's going to do it, he is going to do it. I can't stop him, I can't control it, and if it is a choice of his, then we weren't meant to be. (different with an actual spouse in that sense)Eventually, the truth always comes out and that's when I would deal with it.
Of course it being your spouse you are trying to reconcile with is a little different than dating. But driving yourself nuts all the time might take away from the good, positive stuff.
Unless you feel that true gut feeling she is doing something bad, try to avoid it and focus on the good.
